Sometimes you really feel like throwing everything in the bin. The silly tailor-made cookie cutters, the sketching pencils, the instagram account, the writing pad, the training mats. You put little pegs in this vertical rock face you find yourself climbing with great effort. Tiny little anchors of connection and good will that you use to … Continue reading Ontologies
I did a number of things this summer which really felt impossible. They mostly had to do with being a solomama. They had to do with finding responsibility overwhelming and practical management of life with really full-on little people totally out of my -rather good, actually- coping skills. A couple of weeks ago, in a … Continue reading Degrees of impossible
The other night I watched Kathrine Ryan's Glitter Room netflix special. It was the first genuinely funny, uplifting, and witty take on single parenting I've come across so far. It didn't help with the wave of anxiety that has taken over this week (you see, I get thrown off balance when I'm lied to in … Continue reading Glitter rooms
Roda de capoeira hosted by Menino Quem Foi Seu Mestre group, June 2019 When I thought all my meaningful social life was really encased in my phone, occasionally spilling over to my laptop for longer emails requiring both hands to compose properly, I was made to realise that people of flesh and bones are not … Continue reading Chama eu, Angola, chama eu.
So it turns out the 'quiet' weekend you wish for, the one when you are eventually entitled to have a significant number of hours dedicated to something other than feeding/changing/comforting/reprimanding/entertaining your kids, including -above all else- some uninterrupted sleep, can turn out to be a little underwhelming. I am not sure whether this is because … Continue reading I’m still here
I am pretty much a cis-gender woman. I think. On most days at least. I was never so much questioning as I was uncomfortable. I grew up in the south of Italy where, at least at the time, there was pretty much only one way of doing 'woman'. As a well-mannered, long-haired and not too … Continue reading Ungendered freedoms
Everybody needs a support group. Especially single parents. We will find one for you, and make sure it runs only on days and times that are impossible for you to make if you work in any capacity. We really need to work on you getting some ‘me time’. Go, go and get some ‘me time’. … Continue reading We, the ghost mamas